Minding the energy, not the time

August 31st, 2014

How do you visualize time? Have you ever thought of how or where you position yourself in it? When does time fly too fast for you and when does it seem to be slowing down? Are you one of the many saying “I don’t have enough time”? Enough for what exactly? By the way, how much would be enough? What if today was the last day?

I’ve been hearing this complaint a lot lately; although everyone is aware of time plasticity, people often moan about the lack of time. Many of my colleagues are coming back from their vacation; and when asked “How was your holiday?” Too short! Is their most frequent answer. I know how tricky time can be… Speaking about some of my recent observations, time dissappeared at the moments of communicating from the heart, dancing to a moving song, surfing in the ocean and feeling one with nature. During work with people when I was really connected to them, which I luckily happen to do daily while coaching, presenting or facilitating workshops, time accelerated. But then came other moments, such as when I was waiting for a surgeon to take out my wisdom tooth, or in the airport terminal expecting the arrival of my daughter. Those moments seemed to take forever.

How do you perceive the passing of time and what is your favorite quality of time?

The main thing I like about time is how it helps me to focus. It is the alignment with what I am experiencing and my level of mindfulness that drives my individual perception of time. Could it be that time is a function of our focus and inner alignment?

Why does time matter to you?

To me, it matters when I am not in the present. When I wish to be elsewhere or if my mind dwelwes in the past or future. I used to be very concerned with time (or rather lack of it) in relation to my seemingly neverending to-do lists. I was speeding up in a desperate attempt to “sort all the tasks and problems out”. In return, the workload would only expanded filling up more and more space in my life… I will be honest with you, before the 100 days of Nowness, the notion of time passing used to stress the hell out of me. It wasn’t until there was nothing urgent to do that I suddenly saw it clearly. I became aware of the game my mind was playing with me. There is never going to be a moment when everything is solved, done and sorted out. Change is the only constant and therefore I may as well relax right now..! I started to respect and even appreciate time, because of how it helps to focus our attention and enables us to meet each other at a given point in time to create something together.

Time provides us with the dynamics which inevitably teach us not to hold onto anything, even those moments that feel so good. And so I decided to let life flow in the same way I let the clouds move and transform. I can’t stop my own body and life from transforming neither. That would stop the flow. Kill the beauty. Prevent the surprise. Limit creation. Ultimately it would make life completely dull. As Joi Ito puts it in his TED talk we better focus on being fully aware, super present and always learning.

What would it change if you knew you have an infinite amount of time available?

Think eternity and immortality for a moment… How would you live?

Now, what’s preventing you from living like that?

In which moments do you most realize the volume of time passed? How clear do you remain in the midst of chaos or time pressure? As time goes by are you transforming with it or trying to prevent some changes from happening?

When I imagine a life not limited by time, I guess I wouldn’t change much. I’d probably be living where I am, with whom I am, doing what I do. Being not limited by vacation – think eternity – I just might have been spending a bit more time surfing :)

Lately, we’ve celebrated our anniversary, our daughter’s birthday, and another school year is about to start tomorrow. Sometimes it’s other things that trigger a time reflection – an accident, illness of a loved one or wars happening yet a bit closer to our home. I tell you even a trivial thing such as a water outage offered a bird perspective on life, something we are often too busy to adopt during our ordinary life. How can such reflection serve us? I believe that similar events are opportunities to reflect and re-focus on what matters the most to us.

After all, time is of no importance when we live each moment fully; when we feel every day pulsing somewhat new, each experience offering a unique and slightly different value. For me, it means accepting the place I am at, and whatever I am part of as exactly right for that moment. It’s letting the life energy flow. When I am fully present, now is all there really is. Time becomes irrelevant and Being now feels awesome.

Ever experienced a moment when time seemed to stop completely?

What were you doing? What is your favorite way tobalance at the edge of the time spiral? I’d love to hear about it!




1.9.2014 08:31

Great blog, and great questions being asked which again let me pause and look at the life from completely different perspective than I was used to. Not sure if there was a moment when time would seem to stop for me, but I certainly know about plenty of moments when I stopped thinking about the fact time is still running - when being concentrated to a work/activity which I like, reading a story which is completely taking my attention.... So, it is the concentration which "saves" time for me. The moment I start to see everything, trying to learn/do too much in parallel the very same moment I feel there is not enough time, and not only that. Less concentration makes me think about how many things I still have to do and the fact that "I don't have time" to make them all, hence frustration at the end. Time is a place to be (kind of space coordinates which are constantly moving). Can I be everywhere - no I cannot. Can I act in where I am? I certainly can. Let me concentrate on what I do now. Time will keep shifting me in the space and remind me that the place I am has changed. Just let me stay concentrated to what I do - is the conclusion I'm making for myself out of the blog! :-) Thanks for it.

2.9.2014 05:21

So glad you shared how you benefit from focusing and being fully within whatever you chose to do. I totally agree - multitasking and having our attention scattered all over the place is not only contraproductive (i.e. we accomplish less), it is a recipe for time acceleration ;-)
Thanks for sharing!

30.3.2015 14:22

When I talked with my father about my worries about work he answer me something like this : Be happy ! You are employed for money which I never had. I worked 10 years in same manual position. And you are crying in front of me about your life....

And nowadays that is my motivation to keep my current job even I am not satisfied - Because of money. Life is not pink always for everyone and sometimes we must be tough....

After I read few articles in your blog Jana, I am starting to think about change in generally , or just sort out thoughts and priorities, way of thinking and focus on important goals of my life and my family.

Thank you for that, because I feel your blog is written from heart and life experience with reasonable questions.

30.3.2015 21:34

Thanks for sharing your own story, Tom! I am glad to hear that reading my blog is encouraging you to pursue your path in life. As Gandhi said: My life is my message. I sometimes play with an image of my older self and I ask: What would I like my life-message to be 20 years down the road? And what can I do today to start creating it? I wish you all the best with your goals; as there is no better expert on your own life than you I know you will rock it!

P.S. This blog is a direct outcome of one such exercise ;-)